IN-PERSON: Doors open at 5:45pm / Class starts at 6:00pm EST
ONLINE: Zoom link sent at 4:00pm / Class starts at 6:00pm EST
**Recording available for 7 days after the class**
Please come prepared to discuss and take notes if you're the writing and brainstorming kind of person!
Whether you are new to the scene or a veteran of 100 kink conventions, you have probably heard of (and put some thought into) safewords. Should you have one? Do you need one? Do you need three? Ultimately, all safewords have a goal of: succinct, direct communication after play has already started, when using straight-forward, spoken sentences is sub-optimal or impossible. To that end, many of us have adopted the "stoplight" system of safewords where "Green" means "Go!", "yellow" means "slow down", and "Red" means "Stop!". There are reasons why this system has worked well for many of us...but is it actually the best system for everyone? We all play, and love, and communicate differently, and I think it's time we gave the stoplight system an overhaul to make it work for us, rather than trying to fit our needs into such a small range. In this workshop we will go over common approaches to mid-scene communication from plain english sentences, to safewords, to drop objects, and how and where those methods are most useful to us. Then we'll have some personal time to identify our most common individual needs during play, and how we might best communicate those to someone else in the middle of play. Then we'll come back together and discuss our choices as we help each other formulate a concise, personalized method of sharing information in the middle of our scenes.
mollie (they/them) is a masochist by nature, a submissive by nurture, and dedicated to service on both personal and community levels because it feeds their soul. They have been an active member of the kink/BDSM community since 2009, primarily as a bottom, though they have recently been dipping their toe into the world of topping for rope bondage. mollie works as a molecular biologist by day and many of their classes focus on applying scientific principles, protocol, and inquiry to the world of Kink.